From Dr. Jane's Notebook
Jane says, "Hit the reset button this summer"
Summer months are like reset buttons for the rest of the
year. Around the world, summer seasons are recognized as opportunities to shift
gears, make changes and make memories. I can imagine a book where each summer of
our lives has its own unique theme and chapter. As a child, time moved slowly
and summer days were long. As a young adult, the pace of life began to speed up
but the summer months still formed a distinct bridge between May and September.
Now, as a seasoned adult, the summer months whirl by so quickly that I have to
slow down in order not to miss them and I have to take specific steps to make
them memorable. Here are a few more thoughts on the matter.
- Summer is a great time to re-examine your life map.
The months of summer are like crossroads and intersections between busy
years. Summer months offer time to re-examine the path we are on. During the
year, we have made many decisions and many decisions have been made for us.
With all that has happened, it’s a good time to look back at your goals and
determine whether you are on track or whether you have been blown off
- Take an important photograph. Pictures are
miraculous ways of preserving memories. They capture our experiences,
accomplishments, reunions and they capture moments in time. From a
historical perspective, pictures help us preserve the past. From a future
perspective however, the pictures we create in our mind can help us identify
and design our next goals. Take a few minutes to imagine a photograph
depicting an important moment in your life…that has not happened yet!
Then, allow your thoughts and dreams to work on the necessary steps
to make that photograph become a new reality.
- Focus on just one goal at a time. When you
think about making changes in your life, try to focus on that single
photograph in your mind. As Kevin Costner, who portrays a baseball pitcher
in For the Love of the Game says, “Clear the Zone”. When we
overcomplicate our thoughts, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and never take
that first step. Or if we become
distracted and forget to focus adequately, we may also fail to take that
first step in a new direction.
- There are a few important tools.
help you on your way, the best and quickest way to raise your self-esteem
and self-confidence…. is to learn something new. When we learn something
new, we feel instantly smarter. To test out this method, simply pick up a
magazine and read an article; most likely you will begin to feel better
informed. Next, the best and quickest way to increase your sense of
self-worth… is to accomplish something. While there are always new
challenges available, you can also revisit former interests and prove to
yourself that you’ve still go it! Some people return to school, take on
volunteer endeavors, resume athletics, or relearn how to play musical
instruments. The possibilities are endless.
In a matter of weeks, the summer will end and work days
will once again grow longer. For now, life is like a carnival with all kinds of
interesting things going on around us. Some are free, some cost money, some are
active, and others are more relaxing. When this summer is over and you give it a
theme, how will you describe this chapter in your book?
©Copyright, 2011, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.
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