From Dr. Jane's Notebook
Wrapping Up. . . and Starting Anew
December... what a month! All within the same 31 days, there are family gatherings,
gifts to buy (or make), erratic schedules, excitement, disappointment, extra work, and
time off. To combat some of the problems associated with holiday stress, this article
suggests a few ways to de-stress your holidays. Just a few thoughts on the matter...
- The holidays are supposed to be fun. As adults, we often lose sight of how to
have fun. Women, in particular, take a lot of responsibility for being sure that others
have fun, but often forget to enjoy these times themselves. Rather, we worry about
everyone else. Unfortunately, worry doesnt help. More often, it backfires and the
one who tries the hardest, usually gets blamed for making others feel
- The holidays are a shared experience. This is a great time to practice our
delegation skills. Make a list of the tasks and share the responsibilities. This allows
others to feel good about their contributions, and takes the burden off of the
overly-responsible family member. However, remember the golden rule of delegation...just
as you want others to appreciate your efforts, you must also appreciate theirs. So even if
their contribution doesnt meet up to your standards, your praise and appreciation of
their effort is a must!
- The holidays can be a time to "let down" and relax. It is often said
that holidays are for children.... so this holiday, why not let "the little child
inside of you" have fun. Remember how it feels to be playful and allow the excitement
to take over. Toss out the practiced scripts, the shoulds, and the musts, and enjoy
yourself. Holidays need not become a chore.
- The holidays dont have to be perfect. Rather, the holidays are a time to be
close with others and grateful for togetherness. This year, some people will be missing
from our holiday table, and some new people will join us. This is both cause for sadness
and joy. As time passes on, families change in shape and size. Holidays have a certain
heritage about them, but each holiday celebration is also a brand new beginning.
- Take time to think about next year. If you get to feeling lost in the haze of the
holidays, look forward a few weeks. The future is right around the corner. Think of ways
to improve your life in the year to come. The holiday season is a great time to relax
before the new year. Be sure and take time for yourself.
ęCopyright, 1997, 1999, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.
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