From Dr. Jane's Notebook
Coming to Grips With Aging
Until recently, I knew very little about Mid-Life Crisis... now it seems like we are
old friends! Growing up is a little like riding uphill on a bicycle. It seems like forever
until we reach the top; then very soon after, we begin to coast and then life rushes by.
The hallmark of the Mid-Life Crisis is our sudden consideration and evaluation of our
lives according to "the Big Picture". It often includes the following ideas:
- Preserve the Body. Up until this point, we usually regard our
health-conscious habits as "matters of choice". Exercise has been for sport and
pleasure. It is only when we come to grips with the reality of cholesterol, family
diseases, and strained muscles, that the true meaning of mid-life becomes clear.
- Maintain the Mind. Everything we do is effected by how we think. To be
successful, we must think success! We must think positively, set goals, and then encourage
ourselves. Self-esteem becomes a valuable commodity. If we are unhappy or depressed, we
owe it to ourselves to seek professional help.
- Strive to increase your Self-Esteem. When we realize the proportion of
our time and energy spent on work, it becomes vitally important that our work be
satisfying. Mid-life is the time when we assess whether we made the right career
decisions, or whether another avenue needs to be explored. It is never too late to improve
our work situation.
- Relationships give life meaning. We fear loneliness and abandonment.
The things that make us happy usually involve others. If your family life is not all that
you want it to be, work to make it better. Relationships with others are the fuel for
motivation, action and enthusiasm.
- To fully appreciate life, we must keep a perspective on death. At a
certain point in time, when we realize our mortality, life gains a timeline. We realize
that the quality of our lives is directly proportional to our physical and mental health,
the quality of our work and the quality of our relationships. Although we always know
about death, it remains an impersonal concept until we fully consider it for ourselves.
In Short, my son asked me about the subject of this month's article. I replied,
"mid-life crisis", for which he asked a definition. I said, " its a time
when you take stock of your life and decide if its the way you want it to be". My
daughter simplified it even further... "it's a time when you go nuts!"
ęCopyright, 1990, 1995, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.
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