From Dr. Jane's Notebook

Summertime... When the Living is Easy?

August is, by far, my favorite month. For it is during this month that very little is expected of anyone! We're all either on vacation, out of town, at the pool, mowing the lawn...or otherwise inaccessible. August is a month of no meetings and savoring the last precious days of summer. And this escape really couldn't come at a better time, since coincidentally, many of us are experiencing occupational burn-out.

August offers those of us suffering these symptoms, a period of time-out. And beneath this precious shield of privacy, what better time can there be to do something of personal importance for yourself or your family? In short, I recommend that we combat occupational burn-out through family enrichment.

Whatever the range of ages, and whichever hobby you choose, it's fun to generate new group enthusiasm and common interests.

We have the opportunity to change that by providing positive images of the future and working toward them as a family. This may be your year to move to a new house, overcome financial difficulties, begin new parent-child activities or work towards other goals. By discussing these goals as a family, everyone's cooperation and enthusiasm can be enlisted.

Evaluate your values and personal qualities, instead of your body image or intelligence. Or as a I told a friend of mine recently, consider whether you are generous and kind, well-intentioned and compassionate...instead of whether you look fat or may have said something dumb. Consider whether you are a good friend and whether you would want yourself for a friend.

There are many ways to grow and improve our individuals, family members, friends, and citizens. We need interpersonal support from each other, and we need to be able to make ourselves feel good too!

As grown-ups we have choices about how we spend our lives, how we treat others, and how we treat ourselves. Herein lies another one of those things that..."our parents never told us."

ęCopyright 1995, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.

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Last Updated September 26, 1998 by Gary M. Grandon, Ph.D.