From Dr. Jane's Notebook

Before I forget, let's talk about dementia

I have always been a huge fan of Bill Cosby, so it was like a dream come true when he was here in Greensboro. He did not disappoint; we laughed non-stop for an hour and a half while he wove his wisdom into funny stories about life. I especially appreciated his take on dementia, a topic near and dear to my heart. As some of my readers know, my Mother has been waging the battle against progressive cognitive decline for at least 10 years and has a condition known as vascular dementia. Here are a few more thoughts on the matter.

According to Bill Cosby, dementia begins for all of us at about age 5. When we’re little kids or big kids, and someone asks why we didn’t do something, we naturally reply, “I forgot”.  Cosby normalizes dementia as something that starts early in life. We forget to do things all the time. Cosby says that kids and husbands always get into trouble for things they forget to do. Some of us compare people who have dementia with how that person used to be, and then look on with pity. I like to compare my Mom with how she was yesterday. All things considered, she usually says or does something quite remarkable and I get to walk away with a smile.

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