From Dr. Jane's Notebook

Guidelines: When the children come home to live

Last year, when our grown and married children moved back to Greensboro, my husband and I found that our empty nest would soon be filled again with our daughter and son-in-law. We welcomed them with open arms. More and more families have returned to life in multi-generational households. So while this is not an unusual situation, bringing two married couples under one roof offers unique challenges. Here are a few more thoughts on the matter.

The old expression “Treat you friends like family and your family like friends” suggests that treating your new “roommates” with the same manners you would extend to guests works better than expecting or demanding their help. When it works, living with adult children and their partners allows families to blend naturally and develop new sources of intergenerational support. In our case, I am truly grateful for the ten months our family spent living together. The experience allowed us time to get to know our daughter as a grownup, married woman and time to get to know our son-in-law, who now feels much more like a son. Opening your doors to family, whether for short or for longer periods of time, can offer unexpected benefits to all.

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