From Dr. Jane's Notebook


On my way! Becoming the Mother of the Bride


When asked what they want to be when they grow-up, very few children describe the goal of someday becoming an in-law. But as Betsy Seale, Editor-in-chief of the Hamburger Square Post can attest, many of her friends, herself included, have become in-laws in recent years. Some of us are only slowly approaching this new stage of life, while others are knee-deep in the hooplah of planning weddings or becoming grandparents. While my husband and I are no experts, we have made a few observations during these months prior to the wedding itself. Here are a few thoughts on the matter.

As I said at the beginning of this article, I am certainly not an expert but I am trying to learn a few things as I approach both the wedding and my new role as a mother-in-law. When all else fails, I will remember a few simple guidelines that I learned as a kid. When 6-year old children sit down to play a game, they are usually well-aware that playing a game with another child can go well or it can be a disaster. To avoid fights and promote a more peaceful, fun time together, most kids like to start their play by first agreeing: what are the rules and who is supposed to do what. Otherwise, even if we do what we think weíre supposed to do in order to win this wedding marathon, we still run the risk that someone will go home crying. So far, I am certain that every wedding is too expensive for that!

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