From Dr. Jane's Notebook

Let your teen get to know the "real you"

Recently, I was pleased to take part in a discussion on talk radio out of Paterson, New Jersey. The topic of discussion was “ how to protect your child from becoming prey to child molesters who connect with your child through Chat Lines on the internet”.  The truth if that chat lines are only one avenue by which our children become prey to unhealthy, deviant adults. Our job, as parents, is to teach our children to beware of danger no matter what form it takes. Here are a few more thoughts on the matter.

As parents, we must earn our child’s trust! Our children watch the way we behave from the moment they are born. They know when we are honest, and they know when we are not. They see how we interact with our friends, and they feel how we interact with them and with our mates. As parents, we must earn the respect and trust of our kids and prove ourselves as credible guides for them in life. Our children are most in danger when we do not communicate and wrestle with issues together. They are most at risk when they need our help but do not trust our opinions. Kids today are no more difficult to talk to than we were at their age. Try the following experiment: If your child is 8 years old, try listening to them as you would have when you were 8 years old. If your child is a teen, listen to them like the person you were in the same teenage year. Your children may be waiting to get to know the real you.   

©Copyright, 2004, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.

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