From Dr. Jane's Notebook


Days of Snow or Days of Woe?


Recent bouts with the weather have left many school kids out of school, and parents out of work. Some parents are fortunate to be able to work from home. With phone in hand and computer on the kitchen table, they merely face the great challenge of concentrating on work and parenting at the same time. Sitting at home with my snow-bound family, I’ve had much time to think about coping with unexpected "vacations". Here are a few thoughts on the matter.

Further, if children feel abandoned emotionally, they will reach into their bags of tricks and make even the most stoic of parents feel awful for our lack of sensitivity. Children have very effective techniques for snapping us back to our true priorities. Just remember: When it comes to laying guilt trips, children are much more masterful at this than their parents.

Kids pick up on our insincerity, and they remember it... forever. What we must remember is that none of us has just one job. We are workers, spouses, parents, children, etc. But especially, if we are lucky enough to have them, we have the most important job which is to love our children, defend them, take care of them, teach them, guide them, encourage them, play with them, talk with them, have fun with them, do things with them, and provide healthy role models for them, so that they will be good parents to our grandchildren.

A recent study verified something that most of us have always known: children learn best when engaged in activities alongside their parents. I agree... So enjoy a few snow days or personal days and put work aside occasionally to spend some truly quality time with your kids. My suggestion: Be an ideal parent for the day (s) and really get to know your kids. They’ll remember it forever, and so will you.

ęCopyright, 2000, Jane R. Rosen-Grandon. All rights reserved.

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